It is a serious problem and you need to get yourself emotionally healthy first before you can have any semblance of an emotionally healthy relationship. I don't know why I bother so much about someone who has clearly given up on me, but his mates hate me and I feel like they are influencing his decisions as a few times he tried to get me back then I didn't hear from him again. According to Karen Young, a psychologist and creator of website Hey Sigmund, if you find yourself talking about the breakup, which can actually be a healthy way to feel better and gain closure, but not being able to do so in a constructive manner, it could mean that you're stuck; however, journaling can help you jot down your thoughts in a productive way to start feeling better and happier with the outcome. Why are you still dating this guy? Once a "relationship" gets to a point of being blatantly disrespectful, it is over. The No-Contact Rule. Get rid of the blame so that there are no bad feelings left, but rather a neutral perspective and acknowledgment of what went wrong and how you can be better going forward. Plain and simple, you’re still in love with your ex. You had a fiancé and then immediately moved on to someone else who by your accounts is terrible? There is a possibility that your ex has not forgotten about you yet and is just involved in a rebound relationship. That time where you would not devalue the person is where you NEED to stay, name calling is a wake-up call that the relationship is (if not already close to being) over. Ten reasons you’re still obsessed with your ex - but why getting back together could be an even bigger mistake. It will not get better. It's really that simple. “A lot of singles can’t completely come to terms that it’s … You were engaged and you aren´t together only 6 months. How do you want to heal when you are still talking with ex? Your ex knows how you feel about him. On the second day of school I met this guy in my photo class who was a sophomore. He left me before for a month and came back but this time it turned into four months and then he moved in with his new girlfriend. If you are comparing other people to your ex, then you are not allowing yourself to find an opportunity for love elsewhere, as you are still hung up and unable to move on. I broke up with my boyfriend in June & despite now being in a new relationship, I still cannot stop thinking about my ex fiancé. You're Angry & Guilty. Why not take some time off from men, and focus on yourself for a while. All this time he/she has been playing you. How long are you together? There's nothing wrong with staying single for a while. Our one year anniversary would have been this month. You see their social media. And even though they are abusive you put up with it, because your fear of being alone is greater than your fear of someone destroying your soul and happiness piece by piece, which yes that's what abusive people do to those around them. It took me forever to get over my ex, and I still have moments to this day. You need someone who will trust you and care about you with all his heart. i have to avoid all contact with him but its so hard. That usually happens when you dump someone and believe the grass is greener on the other side, only to find out you can't move on from the past. Only during time of self reflection will you discover your self worth and avoid this all together. Tracey Cox explains why many women can't get over … It’s been 6 months, now it’s been a year, now it’s been a year and a half, what’s wrong with me. 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